GREAT READ, FOR HEALING C-PTSD

GREAT READ #CPTSDHEALING #understandyourself

"Thriving in a gathering of aliens

Awareness of our trauma-induced narrowing interpretations and patterns enables us to change and take responsibility of our lives. Pivoting from surviving to thriving (Pete Walker), provides hope to outgrow this alienation process and heal our wounds and scars.

Reading, insights, associations, therapy, and day-to-day reflections have shed light on some important steps that I am taking interchangeably based on what I sense I need to ground in the present:

Start to become aware of who you are and the journey that brought you to this very moment. After all, you’re a C-PTSD survivor, so you must at least have done something to survive. Feel what it feels like to be you. Understand how you think, feel, and behave in your specific way, both in an intellectual and physiological sense. Do it non-judgmentally. Do it with compassion.

No matter whether you or anyone else is alien, start to befriend the aliens. Explore what your alien looks like, what (s)he likes to eat, drink, read, etc… Be pragmatic. Bring it down to earth and in the present moment. Catch your mind when it wanders down the memory lane, and bring it back to what you are doing.

Discover that being different is not necessarily a bad thing. Your pain turned you into a unique human being. Your inner critic may relabel that as being alien, well, if that’s how the critic wants to call it, feel free at all times!

Stop, pause, slow down, and just sit with your uncomfortable feelings and thoughts when they arise. They have the right to be there, they want to be heard, too. Listen to their message: what are they trying to tell me, if anything?

Acknowledge that whatever you are doing to heal is extremely hard work. It may not feel that way, it may not look that way to yourself and others (who associates ‘feeling what is’ with hard work after all?), but rest assured: you are working hard so be kind to yourself (which takes effort too).

To paraphrase Ron Siegel in conversation with Gabor Maté: ‘ultimately, we have to be able to deal with the nitty-gritty challenges of being a human being living in their relationships in the world. And this ability to live the world’s nitty-gritty challenges – taking into account our idiosyncrasies, our inner functioning, and our authenticity – will eventually make us thrive as human beings."

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My 2 cents as a #CPTSDWARRIOR :

CPTSD & Me: Working through the chaos #HEALINGTAKESTIME #UNDERSTANING AND #COMPASSION, MOST IMPORTANTLY: #EMOTIONALSUPPORT . LOVE Yourself first and foremost , learn to set healthy #boundaries, and leave the toxic "choosing only the positive" bulls&% at the door , if you really give a sh%$ . People will say they will be there for you all day long, but leave you in silence , so it's something that can make a person spiral more and more with thus condition. Just love yourself , and forget about the rest of them until you can enable their BS like they do.

Main article --- https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/11/17/trauma-can-turn-the-world-into-a-gathering-of-aliens/

https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/11/17/trauma-can-turn-the-world-into-a-gathering-of-aliens/